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When someone you love has died the pain is overwhelming,
you will experience lots of scary and difficult feelings that can
be all jumbled up.
You may feel sad, angry, confused, scared, lonely, guilty, disbelief,
pain and many other feelings. It is NORMAL to feel like this
when someone we love has died.
You may also have physical symptoms such as exhaustion and tiredness
and have no energy. You may lose your appetite and be unable to
sleep properly. Concentration may be difficult and everyday things
like going to school or out with friends can be just too much.
There may seem little point in bothering with anything any more
and you may wonder how life is going to be in the future. You miss
your special person so much.
This is called grief and it is hard. It is good to share with someone
how you feel. It may seem really difficult to talk to someone in
your family but doing this can be very helpful. Often families try
to protect each other as they do not want to upset each other but
sharing your feelings can make life easier at home. You may prefer
to find a friend or another adult you can talk to, someone you know
you can trust and who will listen to you.
Talking may be just too difficult and if so perhaps you could try
writing your feelings down, writing a letter to your special person
or drawing a picture. Expressing our feelings in this way may help.
Keeping all your worries and fears inside won't make them go away.
Grief can last for a very long time but gradually the pain will
ease. Whilst you will always miss your special person you will eventually
adjust to a different way of living.
It is important that you find ways of remembering your special person
for the rest of your life. You can do this by:
• Talking about them.
• Looking at photos
• Keeping special belongings.
• Acknowledging special days. It is important whilst you are
grieving to have some normal routines and you should still allow
yourself to have some fun. It doesn't mean that you don't care.
If you would like to talk more about your feelings please do call
us and we can arrange for you to have some support.
Dawn
Telephone: 01582 707469
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